Argue for Your Limitations
In his book “The Reluctant Messiah,” Richard Bach creatively expressed the concept of limitations. The protagonist confides in his friend that he is unable to walk through a wall. While most of us would readily acknowledge the impossibility of such an act, it prompts us to reflect on the broader use of the word “impossible” in our lives.
It is often easier to dismiss potential opportunities by asserting our limitations rather than embracing the risk of trying. As human beings, we acknowledge certain physical and mental constraints. However, it is crucial to distinguish between acknowledging these limitations and actively testing our capabilities. While attempting to test our abilities, such as jumping off a cliff to see if we can fly, should be approached with caution, many aspects of our lives can be explored and expanded upon through experimentation.
Consider the impact of limiting our potential from a young age. If, as infants, we were convinced that we could not walk, a one-year-old might attempt the action and fall on their buttocks. If they subsequently concluded that walking was impossible, they would likely spend their lives crawling on the floor. In contrast, older children and adults make mental determinations about their limitations without empirical evidence. Furthermore, even when we attempt to test our abilities, we often succumb to disappointment after one or two unsuccessful attempts.
Social pressures often exacerbate these limitations, leading us to self-imposed constraints before even attempting to explore our potential. When were you told that you were not suited for something? Did you believe the person who made that assessment? If so, you most likely ceased or never began pursuing that goal. We often allow others to define our limitations without concrete evidence and then engage in internal debates about our perceived limitations.
The apprehension of failure is only surpassed by the fear of success. No one desires to feel like a failure. Consider whether the limitation you advocate for is intended to hinder success. There is a fear associated with achieving success because once accomplished, there is an expectation that one can or even should repeat the endeavor. What if the success was an anomaly and cannot be replicated? Now, one appears even more like a failure. Alternatively, what if the success can be replicated, and individuals demand that one collaborate, consuming one’s life with their demands? These are scenarios that evoke nightmares.
Therefore, persist in arguing for your limitations. Restrain yourself from achieving your aspirations based on these fears. You have the autonomy to determine your own life. However, wouldn’t it be more gratifying if you took the risk and transcended your perceived limitation?